Life is a funny old thing. It can throw all sorts of things at you and you cope. Or at least you try to. At the time, it might not feel like it but years later, when you look back, you suddenly realise, “Wow! I survived!” That’s life…
One of the hardest challenges a person can ‘survive’ is the death of a loved one. At the time, and for quite a while after, there are thoughts and feelings of guilt, anger, and sorrow.
Personally, I call them the “What-if?”, “How dare they? And “I miss them” stages. (Qualified professionals probably have much better names and more stages but they get paid more money and are obviously more educated than I am)
Regardless, none of the stages are any fun because the person left behind is simply that. The one left behind. The one who is left to deal with the emotions, feelings and memories of their loved one. (We simply do not know how the person who has moved on feels.)
Having said that, I’ve found it helpful to still talk to them as if they were still here. Tell them when you feel guilty, angry or sorrow. I also like to ‘celebrate’ occasions by burning a candle to honour the person and to light their way back into our home.
What I do truly and honestly believe is that no one who is truly loved is ever forgotten.
Thursday, 20 May 2010
Tuesday, 4 May 2010
A long absence...
Well! I've been pretty slack haven't I? I have no excuses so please just accept my apologies. (Hanging my head in shame)
Quite a few changes have happened since I last wrote. Mostly to Pup. He is now officially taller than me - which is no laughing matter! It honestly happened overnight. He went to bed and he woke up in the morning quite a few centemeters taller. I suddenly noticed that I was now looking up into his eyes! I decided that because I'd only had one coffee and was still clearly delusional! Later in the day, he was standing beside me in front of a mirror and it became fact!
His voice has deepened and that's been an event in itself! At first, I kept thinking there was a stranger in the home. I'm slowly getting used to it but the downside is now when his brothers annoy him, he can really BELLOW at them! Honestly, it makes me jump everytime! He has also started growing facial hair. Initially, I thought it was a bit of dirt and tried to wipe it off and then realised the truth... He loves it and is not interested in shaving it off just yet. His plan is to grow it until he can 'twirl' it like a French villain. My plan is to stop that bit from happening. :)
Cub is also growing steadily and I don't think it will take too long for him to catch up to me either. He's enjoying school and had a go at the afterschool cricket. His first week was plenty of fun and he was keen to go back. Unfortunately it wasn't as much fun a week later and he decided he wanted to quit. We convinced him to continue but he was very happy when the cricket season ended.
Foal! What can I say about him? His teacher loves him so much she made him "Student of the Week" TWICE in the first term! During the first term I did pop along for one of those 'orientation' afternoons where you get to meet the teacher and find out their expectations for the year. I normally attend because they are highly amusing and I love hearing the fairy tales about my son. His teacher was fascinated to hear that he can be a 'bit' stubborn at home but did console me with "at least he knows how to behave in public". At least that is true... Another mum (who helps out in the classroom) completely disbelieved me with the comment that, "she can't imagine him being anything other than an angel".
And finally, we have a new addition to the household. A small blue budgie flew into the shed and decided to stay. I've tried finding his owner but haven't had any luck. I even phoned the local budgie club because he has a tag on his leg but the vice president told me not to bother and just keep it! I asked him if he wanted it but he declined, saying he already has 315 of them! I wanted to tell him that I hope its one of his and its a champion but didn't because I was stunned by his attitude. Because the budgie has a weird personality, he fits in perfectly.
Quite a few changes have happened since I last wrote. Mostly to Pup. He is now officially taller than me - which is no laughing matter! It honestly happened overnight. He went to bed and he woke up in the morning quite a few centemeters taller. I suddenly noticed that I was now looking up into his eyes! I decided that because I'd only had one coffee and was still clearly delusional! Later in the day, he was standing beside me in front of a mirror and it became fact!
His voice has deepened and that's been an event in itself! At first, I kept thinking there was a stranger in the home. I'm slowly getting used to it but the downside is now when his brothers annoy him, he can really BELLOW at them! Honestly, it makes me jump everytime! He has also started growing facial hair. Initially, I thought it was a bit of dirt and tried to wipe it off and then realised the truth... He loves it and is not interested in shaving it off just yet. His plan is to grow it until he can 'twirl' it like a French villain. My plan is to stop that bit from happening. :)
Cub is also growing steadily and I don't think it will take too long for him to catch up to me either. He's enjoying school and had a go at the afterschool cricket. His first week was plenty of fun and he was keen to go back. Unfortunately it wasn't as much fun a week later and he decided he wanted to quit. We convinced him to continue but he was very happy when the cricket season ended.
Foal! What can I say about him? His teacher loves him so much she made him "Student of the Week" TWICE in the first term! During the first term I did pop along for one of those 'orientation' afternoons where you get to meet the teacher and find out their expectations for the year. I normally attend because they are highly amusing and I love hearing the fairy tales about my son. His teacher was fascinated to hear that he can be a 'bit' stubborn at home but did console me with "at least he knows how to behave in public". At least that is true... Another mum (who helps out in the classroom) completely disbelieved me with the comment that, "she can't imagine him being anything other than an angel".
And finally, we have a new addition to the household. A small blue budgie flew into the shed and decided to stay. I've tried finding his owner but haven't had any luck. I even phoned the local budgie club because he has a tag on his leg but the vice president told me not to bother and just keep it! I asked him if he wanted it but he declined, saying he already has 315 of them! I wanted to tell him that I hope its one of his and its a champion but didn't because I was stunned by his attitude. Because the budgie has a weird personality, he fits in perfectly.
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